Life Begins – when you let it!

I have wanted to do this for sometime, even set up a WordPress Blog but I haven’t got on with it. Well now I am. I have to get healthy and I need to lose weight but I have been failing on both counts for some years now. I have had brief times of success but I have always fallen back to old habits and worse! This will be my ramblings.


I now firmly believe that it has to be a whole life approach and that is EXTREMELY difficult because of  sabotage – self, close family and the need to earn a living. I am not sure how I am going to work through this because I have been attempting a healthy lifestyle for getting on for 6 years now and I have failed. This, however contradictory this may sound, is my starting place.


I have read and experimented with many, many different diets/eating plans over the years and many are excellent but they have either only been successful for a short period for me or they have not been successful at all. This is not the fault of the eating/ health plan but more an issue with me, my mental state and my physical life.


My life is chaotic. I am married, have no children but I do have a puppy and relatively fit but relatively elderly parents and parents in law. Over the past 6 years I have helped set up a large Charitable Trust, supported my husband and his brother in buying an ailing (although not anymore) paint manufacturing business, been diagnosed with Psoriatic Arthritis, been made redundant twice (in one year), my endocrinologist tells me I am post menopausal (I have a teeny, tiny tumour on my pituitary gland which is monitored by these good folks), I have kept my own business running (well ticking over) and just now I have 4 different employers as well as my own business. It is, whatever way you look at it too much.


As a result of the many things that happen to me/ have happened to me over the past few years, I have put a lot of weight on and become very unfit. I would like to say at this point, particularly for any psychologists reading this, I know I have allowed these things to affect me and it is not the events themselves which have piled the pounds on. It may also be useful to note (and slightly embarrassingly) that my degree is in Sport Science and I am a qualified PE Teacher and apart from recent years, my career has been in the Sport & Leisure Industry. I am a Cycling and Triathlon Coach (amongst other things), I have a better than average understanding of exercise and nutrition. This all adds to my frustration in not being able to ‘sort myself out’, as my father would say, there is no doubt, I do know better!


Clearly ‘knowing better’ has not been of any help to me though, so what is the missing factor? Well this is now my quest….. how can I find something that works for me in ‘sorting myself out’ and heading back to the land of the healthy? My other half and one of my (and his own) chief saboteurs has agreed to join in this journey so his story will intermingle with mine. So for all of you who join me and him on this trip, we will have a ‘his’ and ‘hers’ view point.